People mature in stages which is one reason schools are split. It would be economically more efficient to have all students in one school for their entire student career. Primary school students act and think differently than high school students especially once they pass through puberty. When people are young, these differences happen rapidly and are more significant. Once one becomes an adult, you continue to mature, to grow and change but at a much slower pace.
A 20 or 30 year old will think significantly differently than a 60 or 70 year old but not much different from each other. People in this group have similar goals and interests. The gap between 21 and 30 is not as significant as the gap between 1 and 10 or 9 and 18 even though it is the same number of years. In addition to this, you add in the natural instinct for human reproduction - it does not know age, it is based on mutual attraction. So many of these factors are instinctual.
Put another way - love does not know race, age, religion, income, etc. Finally, it is unlikely that this situation was forced on either party; it is a mutual attraction. Maybe people his act like year olds, and the year old actually acts his age. I read most of the answers. There are really nice advice from different approaches. Maybe it's the maturity that she finds in him that she can't find in people her age.
Men tend to date younger women because beauty, youth and fertility are what a man is instinctively attracted to. Women on the other hand are attracted to wealth, status and power which men only tend to get as they age. So that partly explains it. Why is a year-old dating a year-old if he could date people his own age? Have you done the 10k year challenge? Does it bother you? Do you find that your friends and family are supportive of your relationship?
Basically, I think the age thing can be kind of interesting to talk about and part of the fun, but I don't want to constantly talk about it and drive her to keep doing the "when I'm X years old, he'll be Y years old" math if it's a sore spot.
We've talked about it a bit, but wanted your take. Its not an issue with either one of us, it never has been. It was a little weird at first when I would start thinking about how old I was when he was born and all but I've gotten over that.
We've talked about our age difference a lot too. My friends and family have no choice but to be supportive but for the most part everyone just wants us to be happy. We don't make it a habit to tell people our age difference but if they are so bold to ask or comment about it then we have no qualms telling them things that might make them squirm a little.
I dated a 43 yr old when I was Still talk to her regularly. More power to you! Sorry you've had a such a negative experience with people being dicks to you. We never had much of a problem, of course I can pass for 30 no problem. We did have one lady in her 60's who stopped us at a baseball game and asked our ages. She got a jealous twinkle in her eye when my company informed her of our ages Yeah I was 19 when I hooked up with a 49 year old.
I am now 26 and we are still together. The biggest problem is middle aged women getting pissed when they realise I am not her son: I like to think of it as racking up karma.
At this point in my life, younger girls are boring to me and I'm much more interested in a woman years my senior.
There are a lot of attractive, available women in that age range. I figure by the time I'm 40 I'll be bored with them and will start using all this karma I've accumulated to date 25 yr olds.
Undressed: What’s the Deal With the Age Gap in Relationships?
It's the circle of life. Younger girls are just too emotional and can't seem to figure what they want. Older women on the other hand just gets it, thanks to their experience most of them. One of the common misconceptions. He must be either dating me for my money or just for sex. He couldn't possibly be dating me for me, right? Well I'll try and use an analogy to explain that train of thought.
30 year old woman dating 21 year old man
Why play with a Game Boy when you can play with a PS3? But seriously, I've found myself more interested in older women recently, and it is simply because they typically have their shit together.
They don't play games. They know what they want out of life and the relationship, and this makes for a much more enjoyable experience.Would a 35 Year Old Man Consider Dating a 23 Year Old Woman?
So cheers to you. I'm surprised by how many people are giving you grief. When I was 21 I was in a relationship with a woman who was 31 and it was pretty much the best thing that could have happened to me then. Brigitte Trogneux met Emmanuel Macron when he was 15 and she was his year-old drama teacher, already married with three kids.
It appears this age gap is largely driven by dudes. The older men get, the younger the women they message relative to their own age. Women, on the other hand, message and respond most often to men about their own age. Once they reach 35, women actually respond more often to younger guys. But because men are usually the conversation starters, the older-man-younger-woman paradigm prevails. Alright, so maybe OkCupid en masse follows dating age conventions, but what about those women who want to flip the norm on its head?
How difficult is it for them to date a younger man?
What I found was kind of surprising. When men message women, women tend to respond most often to men around their own ages. A year-old woman will have better luck messaging a year-old man than a year-old one, according to the data. And a year-old man is more likely to respond to a message from a year-old woman than a message from any other age group.