Getting ready for Valentine's Day in Costa Rica, where the dating scene is governed by different rules than in the United States. Ticos in a winter wonderland. I am thankful for dating. As a woman, I consider it a symbol of my freedom to choose the person with whom I would like to spend my time, be it years or a few hours. In reminding us that we are not compatible with everyone, dating is a celebration of our individuality. My grandmother was never allowed that kind of liberty. She married a man she had seen only a couple of times and who asked for her hand when she was barely fifteen.
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Do not be surprised if after a few dates a significant other begins calling more often to see where their partner is, what they are doing, who they are with at all hours of the day and night. Jealousy is not simply a cultural aspect that does not have any reasoning behind it. Ticos tend to be jealous, because there are very high rates of infidelity in the country.
People like to have a good time, and sometimes they just happen to have a better time with someone new and exciting. In fact, some Ticos are so jealous they have car tracking devices installed in their spouses cars so that they can see online at any time of the day where the car has traveled, how long it was there, and when it left.
Breaking up with a Tico is usually pretty easy, with a Tica not so much. Tico men are very proud, and their machismo does not let them get to upset.
The girls, as in any culture, seem to be a little more sensitive, and since they are possessive as well, cutting the cord is even harder to do. When breaking up with a Tico, expect that now their partner is not allowed to talk to any of his or her friends anymore, as in most cases they will no longer give the time of day.
Many foreigners make the common mistake of renting a motel when they arrive in Costa Rica thinking it is a cheaper version of a hotel. In a sense it can be. Most motels simply charge by the hour. Motels here in Costa Rica are mainly used by couples looking for privacy.
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These couples are often young people or people cheating on their significant other. These motels are so private in fact that when one pays, they cannot see the person they are giving cash to and they cannot see who is renting the room in order to protect the identities of all parties involved.
The rooms are pretty interesting as well. Many of the nicer motels have large Jacuzzi tubs and some even have round beds. Motels are not a place to spend the night in Costa Rica, they are more just to have a good time. Motels are a very practical solution for many Costa Ricans, because many of live with their parents until they get married. Something that was very surprising moving to Costa Rica was that birth control is readily available over the counter at any "farmacia" in the country without a prescription or parental consent.
Therefore, one would assume that teenage pregnancy rates are lower, but in fact they are not. Costa Rica is still a developing country. Statistics show that pregnant younger women aged 15 to 19 in developing countries have a higher death rate due to complications from pregnancy and childbirth. The negative effects of teenage pregnancy include: These same cases are also at very high risk for sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV or AIDs by indulging in careless, unprotected sex.
According to the regional Ministry of Health in Costa Rica, of the births registered by the city of San Jose in were to adolescent girls who did not practice abstinence nor use birth control for fear of dropping hints of what they do when parents aren't looking.
For some young girls, especially in highly religious households, becoming pregnant as a teen is almost the end of the world. Many parents still disown their children for becoming pregnant or getting a girl pregnant. High rates of teenage pregnancy can also be attributed to the lack of communication about the topic in general.How to Win a Costa Rica Woman Over
Since we normally kiss, hug and compliment the way others look, even when we are not trying to pursue someone romantically, it is less strange to do so when you are actually out on a date. Traditions like meeting the parents also lack the meaning they carry in the U. Costa Ricans live with their parents way past the age they should. This ease is countered by other kinds of constraints. We also continue to struggle with the effects of machismo, which seriously hamper the construction of healthy relationships.
But I believe we are improving, and not just because of Tinder. I think we are exhibiting a more open-minded approach to meeting people and going out with strangers.
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Perhaps the most common thing seen so far is the gigantic time frames that pass between communication, and actual dates. There have been men who have gone MIA for a week then pick back up like nothing ever happened. And this happens over, and over, and over again. Things may seem to move quickly with fiery declarations or pet names wayyyy too early on. So the guy is wicked cute, very charming, and perhaps fantastic in bed. Whatever that is, make sure you are clear about your expectations and honest with yourself.
Not only here- but across the globe. Respect what you need and want.