Awkwardness on next date following the first kiss date. I met this girl recently and we have gotten along well. Really good chemistry, laughing, conversation, etc. Our next date after that was about a week after. I felt like there was a bit more distance between us. I don't know if I was just reading too much into it or looking for signs but for example at one point we sat down on a bench and she put her purse in between us. I guess part of me was feeling that things would be more comfortable on that following date and I was disappointed that it seemed like there was more distance.
Remember what you learned from all those movies and TV and books: The longer the wait before the kiss, the longer the sexual tension builds.
This means that no matter what, you should stay in your chair until she gives you the green light. Give her a moment to take it in and respond to it before you move. The kiss will be all the better for it.
So you've pulled the trigger and asked for the kiss. But what do you do if she says "No," or shakes her head, or gently deflects the conversation? Remember, it's painful and embarrassing to decline when someone asks you for a kiss. If she tells you no or signals you that she's not into it, drop it immediately. Don't act surprised "Really?
But we had such a good date! It is, isn't it? I'll give you the same advice a PE teacher gives you when you fall down: Walk it off immediately. Smile and say "OK! Then change the conversation to something else entirely. You want to come off like a mature, relaxed guy who doesn't think a kiss is a big deal — not a baby who's been told "No" for the first time. Don't do that , so you don't have to worry about it! The date will end soon enough, and then you'll never have to see this person again.
I am curious to hear about other people's experiences with this type of thing. I guess part of me didn't want to "impose" myself on her and get all touchy feely.
In retrospect I realize that she might have been looking for more re-assurances from me of my interest. Share Share this post on Digg Del. I can't say that I have ever experienced what you are talking about.Send her these texts after a first date, especially if you didn't kiss her!
I can't imagine wondering if some guy who kissed me was now regretting it because he just wanted to be my friend. I don't go around kissing my friends like that.
Remember This: A First Kiss Is Not Just a Kiss
I assume that if he kissed me, he's interested in me. Did you kiss her again during or after the date following the 1st kiss? She's trying to figure out why you are going backwards.
I would have expected a kiss hello at that point.
Dating after the first kiss
The way I am is I would have wanted him to say something about the kiss as in that was so nice or I really liked kissing you..
If it was talked about at all I think that may cause some awkwardness on her part. Also, I would have expected to be greeted with a kiss.
If I wasn't I would be confused. But drinks had gone well, and I was walking her home, through a big fluffy snowstorm. She was giggling melodiously — which was tremendous news. If you can make somebody laugh, they probably want you to make them do other things, too. But, as we were standing on the street corner, a wave of idiocy-inducing anxiety took me over.
So I grabbed her head and we began kissing passionately. In my state of wonder, I was so oblivious that I was feverishly manhandling the side of her head.
It became a cute running joke, and we kept dating. There are all sorts of good first kisses.
One of my favorite relationships started when we kissed on a misty night in a forest after we broke into an old theater and waltzed on a darkened stage. Another one started when we were on LSD in a crappy coffee place. Every first kiss has its own sort of magic — each one is its own kind of story. Let that be a lesson to you.
What it means is that you should take courage and just do it. Take your mouth and put it on there.