I put it in quotations because there really is no such thing, but to put it in perspective. Some of this is going to be a little soul bearing as well, so bear with me. Yes, some, or rather most artists suffer from some sort of depression. We stay in our heads a lot. Which leads me to number 2. Talk to your significant other.
Get them out of your head and out in the open where they can be burned by the sun. I have a thing for fire. Talk to them about it. Help them understand why you do what you do. Where will this go?
Is it just a hobby or something more? If you want to make a living at your art, learn the business and lay it out for your partner. Show them where it can lead. Why you have to stay up that extra hour to get things just right. Let them feel your passion. They think they have something to gain from your craft. Fame, contacts, money, whatever. These people will not make you happy. Unfortunately, there are laws against using fire against people, but you can at least distance yourself and use that awesome imagination to imagine them on fire.10 reasons to date an brianaissance.com4
Let them take you outside. But my point is, go on dates, stare dreamily into each others eyes, play Halo or Borderlands or Call of Duty or whatever together, go for hikes, go swimming, float the river, be inspired. Because, you see, relationships need to be nurtured. You need to spend time together, grow together. But you also need inspiration.
Watch people and things and see sunsets and the stars. You need to focus on your craft so you will have to lock yourself in a room for an hour or two. Now, having said thatů. Let them know how much you care about them and how much you appreciate their support. Your reclusive nature can be hard on a person. I love this article, Manders. The woman in the picture on my facebook page is my sister.
As things become more stable and under control with the writing, I think I can pick my head and look around and see the rest of the world around me.
Sad really and it always ended badly. With regards to the writing not being easy on those closest to you: This helps with making the writing and other creative projects flow but can be a little hard on someone who cares about you. We just get really sucked in. Sometimes our fictional realities seem more real that real life.
Dating an artist is hard
I let my imagination run amuck and I come up with all these horrible scenarios and end up taking my fears out on those around me. Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.
Posted on May 31, by amandamccarter. As always, if you have other ideas, post in the comments. About amandamccarter I am an aspiring writer. I'm in comics, and he's into games. So there weren't any rivalry between us. But I don't think I could date another comic artist, really. I think it'd spawn more anxiety and jealousy from my part all my friends are published comic artists from big name companies in Sweden, so having a partner that's also more successful would just break me I think.
My wife also writes. There's definitely a competitive edge to it, but it helps that I'm the more experienced writer, that she doesn't take it as seriously as I do, and that she writes in a genre I will never touch romance. There's enough distance that we can celebrate each other's achievements. Now I'm wondering what a married pair of accountants would be like.
If they worked at home, would the office take over every part of the house? I'm not all that interested in dating at all? But I will basically not date anyone who is oversensitive, pessimistic, extremely immature, has hateful ideologies such as racism or homophobia , is an extremist of any kind conservative christian, raging anti-theist, elitistic vegan, idgaf what it is, extremists are just a pain in the ass to deal with and I ain't letting my dick touch one , and I will not date one of my fans.
I also wouldn't want to date anyone outside of Scandinavia again. Some artists fall into the above. I think the only jobs I can't deal with a partner having would be military work, prostitution and illegal jobs.
If a partner does art, that's fine by me, as long as he lets me work in peace and doesn't try to wedge himself into my projects or drag me into his. And as long as he doesn't get all jealous or tries to compete with me. I'm not interested in competition or jealous bullcrap, I'm interested in personal development and the love for art.
I can't do his personal development and he can't do mine so there is no place for competition. Also get outta the bed, that's reserved for my laptop, tablet and all the cats I wanna have. My bf is the exact opposite of me. Where I'm creative and emotive, he's very logical and practical. He doesn't have any creative hobbies He did used to work for graphic design company though so he has his uses. My boyfriend common law partner is the writer I work with. We're on the same page with pretty much everything as far as our project goes.
We're highly competitive with each other in terms of individual success but we use that as fuel towards self improvement rather than letting our emotions run out of control. It's all down to attitude. All the boyfriends I was with previously had no self drive and didn't consider my art in any sort of regard.
That didn't work for me. Well, mine is a writer, and I like to write too, but I'm mostly a comic artist. We do a ton of collabs, roleplaying, proofreading each other's stuff, I draw him illustrations and he helps me with the dialogue in comics and how to portray his guest characters in my works. We can talk about our OCs all day long and ship them hard sometimes XD. It's a lot of fun. And definitely less stressful to ask for proofreading and critique from him than any other friend for some reason, since there's infinite mutual respect, and he just knows how to handle my somewhat difficult personality.
Even though we both like to write, we never competed wit heach other. We do support each other a whole lot though, whether promoting online or being inspiring t one another. I'm definitely the more successful one, but I never saw him complaining that I'm doing better than him or any sort of jealousy. I literally asked him just now to be sure and he confirmed it: Not a comic creator or anything, but back in high school I rebounded from a previous relationship into a relationship with a guy who was an artist.
One of those surrealist painters. He was convinced that he was going to be the next renaissance revolution of our generation.
Most of his paintings were crap. Some of them were good, but most of them just, conventionally speaking, weren't good - but of course, telling him that didn't mean anything, because you just "didn't get it".
He draws My Little Pony fetish art on Tumblr now. Obviously it did not end well. I would be interested in someone who is different, maybe eccentric even.
Just someone I find to be an interesting individual, which I don't find very often. The people who I have found to be more interesting than "normal" tend to be artists. I like weird and eccentric and if I were to be with someone who is also an artist, that wouldn't be an issue for me.
Really, I enjoy talking about story writing, manga artists I admire and the technical aspects to certain TV shows, movies, etc. Having someone who is also interested in such topics and understands them would be ideal for me. But I also like to talk about bigger topics such as world news or human behavior. So really, I don't care if it's someone who is an artist or not but ideally someone who can appreciate it to some degree considering I draw.
NOW, where is this thread about people dating on Tapastic? I'm curious because that seems Does Tapastic have a discord or something where people can meet?
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I struggle to even have friends who are into comics, because I usually meet people that are only into ONE thing and that drives me mad. I mean, either they only talk about drawing or they do not care at all, so I find it difficult to imagine myself dating a guy who draws. I'm currently dating a drummer tho, and we love to share our progress and difficulties in the respective artistic field, often referencing the other side to let the other understand better, and it's cool.
My fiance is my editor and also a writer, so it's a different facet of art. But despite not being a visual artist he still has a really good eye for it. It's always really interesting and fun to me when we get to go to museums or talk in depth about art topics because we agree on some things and disagree on others, so it's a nice and chill debate.
Often times I'll even take controversial topics on this forum and start a discussion with him about it for the mental exercise. I don't think I could date someone who was a non-creative, or at the very least, not an art appreciator. I would need someone who cares about what I'm doing and invests, at least emotionally, in my passion. Even better if I can invest in theirs in return. I can logically understand why some people would get jealous and competitive, but I've never been either of those things so I can't say I "get" it.
I love seeing my friends and loved ones excel in their field, even if it's in the same field as mine, because their personal successes are important and in no way reflect on mine.
I've always been of the mindset that artists need to support each other. Glad to hear I'm not the only one who has a delusional ex with an overblown ego. Trying to not date artists in NYC is really difficult I have dated short term dancers, actors, musicians, sculptors, painters, graphic designers, fashion designers who were kind enough to fly me places and get me fashion week tickets LORD , photographers, and illustrators. My most recent relationship was a math teacher, and the ones before were a photographer, and a fashion designer.
In those relationships everything was cool, we all had different fields so I don't think we all got too much into each other's hair. I try not to date other illustrators or graphic designers, not because I would create a complex, but because if they suck I would tell them, I mean, I wouldn't even date them in the first place if their art is something I do not find pleasing.