At first, they will convince you that they are over her. So you will convince yourself that he cannot still be in love with someone who hurt him like that. You know that you are better for him, and he knows that you are better for him. So you dive into each other, each of you hoping that this new relationship will help him forget about her. You will have fun together. You begin to want more. You knew you would have to wait for him to come around, but months have passed and everything is still superficial; something is just missing.
I can get off the single merry-go-round! But, just as you're about to make the leap off into a relationship, you're shoved straight back on again.Seeing Your Ex With Someone Else
Matters of the heart are always tough iStock. All the Single Ladies: You sometimes feel like you'll go around and around forever, unclaimed. Like a forgotten bag on an airport carousel.
Dating someone in love with their ex
Anyway, as you said, you already know that you shouldn't contact this guy. If he's still in love with his ex, there's little chance you'll work things out right now.
So, I'm afraid you need to delete his number, unfriend him on social media, and consider taking some time out from dating for a bit. Maybe he just wasn't Mr right?
Meanwhile, being single for 18 months is nothing to worry about. Perhaps there was no closure; perhaps he is waiting for her to come crawling back to him; perhaps it is just his pride that keeps him from going back to her. You are just the placeholder until he decides what he wants to do. His emotional distance makes you dig your heels in even harder as you resist the fact that this man is so close to being yours—that if you had met at a different time or place or universe, things may have been different.
When you are Dating Someone Who Isn't Over an Ex
All you want to be is enough, but you will never be enough because you will never be her. And no matter how good of a person you are, or how compatible you are, or how well you treat him or how much you make him laugh, he will never love you the way he loves her.
You will kick yourself a thousand times for trying to mend his broken heart, for getting involved with him when you should have known better. Maybe he will get back together with her one day and they will live happily ever after, or maybe he will move on from her on his own terms in a few weeks, or months, or years… and maybe then you will get a second chance with him when the timing is finally right.
As they say, the two things you need for love are chemistry and timing. But timing is a bitch. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday.
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