A fter nearly four years of being single, I decided that I wanted to meet someone romantically. Instead of waiting for love to find me, as people often suggest, I decided to do what so many do these days: I started looking at some of the available profiles and I eventually found someone that sparked my interest, so I sent a message introducing myself and asking more about them. Receiving a reply from someone who is romantically interested in you can be a strong and positive feeling, especially since most of us, especially men, are familiar with embarrassing ourselves when asking someone out on a date. Starting any relationship is complicated, but it's all the more so for those of us with disabilities.
I wanted them to accept me for who I was, but worried that she might dismiss me out of hand once she knew. In the end, I told the woman the truth because my disability, or rather, fighting to end the oppression of disabled people in society, is a big part of my life.
I didn't receive another message back. Forming a romantic relationship can be difficult for anyone. For people with disabilities, it can be one of the hardest things you ever do.
Most online dating websites do not ask users whether they have a disability. When it comes to meeting potential partners for the first time, it can come as a surprise if the disability has never come up in online conversation.
For many disabled people, it can be embarrassing to talk about their disability so it helps if dating websites offer them the chance to say that they have a disability or ask other people whether they are willing to meet disabled people.
Online dating speech impediment
I've certainly found that being upfront is less embarrassing than revealing this in the later stages of dating. A few websites, such as UK Disability Match , do offer disabled people the chance to meet others like themselves.
But such sites can be abused by non-disabled people with a fetish for particular kinds of disability yes, this exists , such as amputations. It is hard to make such websites safe and comfortable for genuine users while keeping them open to non-disabled people who are looking to contact disabled people for different reasons. For me, knowing that I have the understanding of any partner is liberating and lets me be myself.
Ladies, would you date a guy with speech impediment? As a woman would you date a guy with a speech impediment? I've added a pole on this one so women can answer anon and without the fear of tanking their rep. Also I will not PM any women that reply to this favorably or otherwise, I'm just looking for some answers beyond myself. I really am curious though because this is something I am extremely self concious about and wondering if I should be as much as I am.
Don't let this sway your answer, if you're going to humor or lie, don't answer, please.
And it's a constant thing, not a mild stutter or mispronunciation of a few syllables, it's notable in anything that comes out of my mouth.
I've run out of time to look it up but what I have specifically is mild hyper-nasal resonance. Basically I sound like retards do when they talk except that I can be understood most of the time. But like I said, this isn't a sympathy vote, don't just go 'aww, I feel bad, of course I would date him..
I'd like you to actually picture a scenario of dating a guy with that, long term and then truthfully answer, would you? Oh and to 'sweeten the pot' the guy is not good looking.
Do not picture a good looking guy when answering this because that will skew the results. My best childhood friend has a speech impediment, I didn't mind it, got used to it very quickly and almost didn't notice it anymore. Would I date a guy with a such condition? Only if it was very very mild, because I'm looking for someone who has amazing speaking skills, since I'm lacking those.
And bc of that I can't have a decent conversation with someone bc I'm so self consious can't spell about it. I dont tgink i use to be this self consious about it but i guess cuz im older that i got worse. Idk what to do.
Online dating is hard enough. Try doing it with a disability
I'll never find a girl bc of my speech impediment. Unless I find a deaf girl who can't hear me. Or I may be alone forever. Thanks girls but honestly I think u girls would be turned off by it. I don't look like a sped , I just look like a normal guy but I just can't speak right.
I can talk to girls who don't speak English like Spanish , Asians , etc that don't speak good English so I'm not scared to talk then. But I just can't talk to hot girls or any kind of girl that speaks English.
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I think your low self esteem could be helped by learning some basics like spelling and writing. Often, when a person is unable to express themselves in a concise fashion, the result is low self esteem and grandiose fantasies. Perhaps an after school program to help catch you up with your peer group would be an option. Or a state funded tutoring program. Or maybe the aliens that you ask about in your last question will provide a solution.
I would, I'm not a girl but I somewhat wish I had a speech impediment, like, honestly it's nothing wrong so it's pretty shallow if they wouldn't just because of that.