He calls regularly, he responds to your texts on time, he meets up when says he will and he shows up when you expect him to. He makes communication simple and easy — like it should be. He stands by you. He makes it a point to be involved in the good and bad things in your life. He wants to know your past, your struggles, your childhood and how you became the person you are today. He gives it a real shot even if it might not work out. A real man is loyal.
There is no gigantic blue foam finger-pointing with this man. Rather than pursue you all the time, a man shows passion for things outside his relationship. Think of it this way: He clearly is confident in where the relationship stands.
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Although he wears the pants in the relationship snagged by you he is assertive in his decision making. Whether he is deciding on a Saturday night date spot or what groceries to buy, he knows what he wants. He is in control of his emotions and clearly expresses his feelings of joy and sadness. He understands revealing such vulnerability speaks to his level of emotional intelligence.
Along the same lines, a man radiates self-confidence and accepts all of himself.
When he demonstrates self-worth inward and outward, he projects this quality to those around him. He will be there when he says he will. You can count on him in all situations. There is nothing more sexy and soothing than when his actions match his words.
You can trust him with yourself and your life. Nothing terrifies me more than being so close to someone and then watching them become a stranger again. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You may unsubscribe at any time.
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In a healthy relationship, respect is more important than love. Because when there is respect, everything will fall in place. It is funny how people think all you need from a relationship is love, but respect is crucial. He not only respects you, he respects what you both have.
He knows that this bubble called relationship is extremely fragile and needs to be protected. When a man truly loves you, other girls are insignificant to him because he is loyal to you. Not only out of respect for you, but for himself and his word.
A man loves you when he is respectful in his words, actions, efforts and thoughts. How can a man misuse such a strong word on a complete stranger?
If a man ever tells you he loves you quickly, please be very skeptical. His decision made me respect him even more. And when he finally said it, it was worth the wait. He says he cares for you but his actions states otherwise. He says he gives you his word but breaks it every time.
As women, we need to pay attention to actions and not words.
How to know if you are dating a real man
I would pick a man that lets his actions speak for him than a man that is all talk. If you are dating a man that is all talk, give him away for free. He will make you his priority and keep his word. If he says he will be at your place at 8 p. I can tell you where it is going, nowhere! How can he truly love you yet go days without communicating with you?
When a man loves you, he will check in at different hours of the day to make sure you are okay or call to hear your voice because you were on his mind. If you go 24 hours without any form of communication from a man that claims to love you, drop him.
You are now single and free to mingle! This also has nothing to do with me binge-watching Ryan Gosling movies and wanting my own lovely gentleman. But when I started dating my boyfriend, he showed me how a gentle man is supposed to treat his lady.
He showed me in subtle ways: Look out for the little things.